To Avoid is Not a Negative

There’s something with our society that tells people avoiding situations is bad. “You must confront others!” They say so majestically in their silver armor on top of their fancy horses. “It is the only way!” They cry out before running at some guy with a lance. Yes, I just made a jousting reference.

Avoiding is not a negative.

What do they teach us in school? Avoid confrontation with bullies. That’s the only time, apparently, that it’s ever okay. Let me tell you other times it’s shown as okay: When being offered drugs. When you’re allergic to something. When it involves joining a gang.

Everybody talks about avoiding PHYSICAL issues as being okay, but they never tell you that it’s okay to avoid the mental hurt. The emotional hurt.

“Go and talk to the person causing you the issues.” Well, what if you’ve already tried that?

Here are some hidden examples of what some people call avoidance: Going to your room to cool off. Taking a walk. Putting on headphones and listening to really loud music. Putting in earplugs. Spending as much time as possible away from the person causing the issues.

Let me ask something, if you know everyday that when you go down a certain street, a guy is going to come and punch you in the face and you don’t know when but you know it’s going to happen and it’s unavoidable if you go down that street, are you going to avoid that street? Well you should.

So is it wrong to avoid the store where the person leers at you? Is it bad to kick out an explicit customer? Is it negative to avoid hanging out with the person you thought was your friend that keeps telling you how fat and ugly they think you are? Not in the least.

On that note, I’m going to the library again today.

Question time!

1. What are you excited about today?
Probably figuring out where I’m at. I’m not used to going so far above the planning stage that it’s a little scary for me. To think that even with a recent event that’s messing up my chances, I can still do things… It’s amazing. I’m excited to see what’s next.

2. What are you grateful for today?
Today I am grateful for tomatoes. And refrigeration. I had my eggs, onions and tomato combination this morning. It’s so good. I’m also grateful for chairs to sit on. And extra chairs for my cat to sit on.

3. What are you absolutely going to do today?
Well, I’m going to figure out what’s next, work on my weekly goals some more, and do some good reading. *nods*

My little list:
1. Work on weekly goals piece
2. Interact on facebook as the professional page
3. Play email catchup
4. Re-do my lemon water
5. Pack up for the library

Have a Productive Day!
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